making babies
I've always had mixed feeling about having children, or shall I say, creating more children. Adoption, fostering, being the best uncle or teacher ... I've always known how much children impress me, and I've known forever that they'd be a major part of my life. I just hadn't thought much about birthing my own children. Maybe it's selfish? I don't know, the jury is still out on this for me.
I'd even entertained having a vasectomy some years ago. I guess that this is good for our story that I had decided to wait on that one.
Let me tell you, Hans birth was the most amazing thing in my life. Watching Laura through pregnancy, reading about Hans daily growth, feeling him kick (or was that stretch out?), ultimately seeing him first thing as he was born: so peaceful, so warm, so beautiful and so much a part of us. Simply amazing.Laura and I had talked about only having one child, and if we were so moved and able to swing it: adopting our other children. I'd still like to adopt at some point, but I really do have this feeling (a feeling I have never had so strong in my life) that I'd like to try this birthing process again and have another child. It may be some time, and we certainly don't want to invest in this sort of thing until we've worked on some things, but as of now, I think that we'll someday be heading down this road again.
I'd even entertained having a vasectomy some years ago. I guess that this is good for our story that I had decided to wait on that one.
Let me tell you, Hans birth was the most amazing thing in my life. Watching Laura through pregnancy, reading about Hans daily growth, feeling him kick (or was that stretch out?), ultimately seeing him first thing as he was born: so peaceful, so warm, so beautiful and so much a part of us. Simply amazing.Laura and I had talked about only having one child, and if we were so moved and able to swing it: adopting our other children. I'd still like to adopt at some point, but I really do have this feeling (a feeling I have never had so strong in my life) that I'd like to try this birthing process again and have another child. It may be some time, and we certainly don't want to invest in this sort of thing until we've worked on some things, but as of now, I think that we'll someday be heading down this road again.
posted by justinian at 2:36 PM
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I have been asking the same question for over three years. This week I got an answer.
Since I began my job as an actor-teacher for Great Lakes, I have had numerous opportunities to teach Romeo & Juliet to high school students all over Northeast Ohio. On Tuesday, before performing the "Balcony Scene," we have a big discussion about "Love." This is usually with freshmen.
There are a number of stock questions to get us started, but we try and make the discussion personal. How does anyone, let alone a fourteen year-old, answer the question "What is true love?"
Sometimes they suggest that true love is defined as love that has staying power. "If your relationship doesn't go through some sort of crisis, does that mean you never know if you are really in love or not? Is true love defined by crisis?"
Sometimes they agree. Or not. And often I have offered up this personal nugget: "As far as I can see, my own parents, married for over 45 years, have never had to overcome any major obstacles. Does this mean they have never really been in love?"
I have been asking this question since early 2002. Finally a student in Strongsville said, "Their obstacle was time."
Yes, of course. And I thought to myself, couldn't we all be so lucky.
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