why i am still awake?
the entire universe has long (wrongly) believed that the loss of a child equates a higher divorce rate. but what no one believes, or misbelieves, or seems to have thought about, at least publicly, is the effect of a "subsequent pregnancy after a loss" on a marriage. that's the one that will kill you. we could not be on more different pages, after you get past the page where we can't believe our good (or dumb) luck to be pregnant again. we've agreed to cut each other some slack from here on out. let's hope we can both actually do it.
posted by laura at 1:34 AM
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My mom is sure that had J and I married in our 20s and we'd had loss(es), we would be divorced by now. She says that because we have 'a mature love' (huh?) we have stuck together.
Does that make sense to you?
You've made it this far, which is no small feat. You both must be overwhelmed with emotions at the moment, so it's no surprise that things are a bit tense. It seems that you have the lines of communication open at least -- half the battle, no? I hope things get easier for you both.
Cutting slack is a good path to take. It's hard to be on the same page with two different brains. You can't always be there for each other even if you want to be.
Hoping you find some middle ground in all this.
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